Tis the Season To Be Down

Dear Not So Merry People, As Christmas and 2019 approaches, many  of you are just trying to make it day to day in hopes that the next day will be better. You aren’t thinking of resolutions. You are hurting from feelings of loneliness, feelings of inadequacy because you can’t give gifts or didn’t reach a [...]

By |December 5th, 2018|

Acrimony: Maybe Melinda was right about one thing.

I’ve seen many people discuss their views of the movie Acrimony. Many people just say that Melinda is crazy. Other people dissect it into lessons of establishing and maintaining a healthy marriage. Others discuss it as a piece of woes occurring when the woman is the breadwinner. While I believe all of those are worthy [...]

By |August 20th, 2018|

Nobody wins when the Family Feuds. Jameelah’s story.

As Jameelah sat in bed, she reflected on the irony of how things change over time. She no longer rushed out of bed excited to attend the 4th of July barbecue at her aunt’s house. It was once a place of laughter and bonding. It seemed as if boundaries and bonding left when grandma passed away. [...]

By |July 9th, 2018|

Lessons from Cycling

Is there any greater feeling than cruising down a hill with the wind blowing through your hair? Why yes? It’s knowing that why riding that you are raising money for children’s cancer. I’m not a devoted cyclist. There’s no one in my family that’s been affected by children’s cancer. Nonetheless, I’ve crossed paths with people [...]

By |June 10th, 2018|

No More Monkey Business

I like the Facebook On This Day. You may see warm old memories with your loved ones, get a chance to reflect on a milestone,  or even just seen how much you’ve grown over the years.   I recently saw a 2 year old post of mine about Mike Brown. It didn’t give me warm [...]

By |June 3rd, 2018|

Hang Em High :Fayetteville Do Better

2018 Public Lynching As I looked at the post of Tyrone Williams on Up and Coming Weekly, it had a familiar tone. There’s the old west theme of wanted posters. However, there’s something more to it. Tyrone is not on the run so there’s no need for this theme. Don’t  think this blog is defending [...]

By |May 28th, 2018|

Don’t dig into Kanye

     There’s been a lot of discussion about slavery as a choice because of a segment of Kanye’s interview. Although I think he made an ignorant statement, this could be a transformative moment encouraging many families to do their research. I wasn’t moved by his words because I know some of my family history. [...]

By |May 8th, 2018|

Yes, I do that to cope.

Coping Mechanisms. We all have them. Some are healthy and some are detrimental. They may vary based on the incident. Being the eccentric person that I am, my means of coping is also uncommon. Time is my coping mechanism. Eagerly enthused by time like the rabbit from Alice in Wonderland, I sometimes look at my [...]

By |May 4th, 2018|

In Wakanda: There are no Brazilian weaves.

Like millions of other people across the globe, I saw Black Panther this weekend. I tagged along with the Deltas since they invited other non-sorority members and their family. It was hard to feel like a part of that tribe since I didn't have shared experiences. Nonetheless, I was surrounded by family. I’ve seen many [...]

By |February 19th, 2018|

Jacob Copeland Experience: When parents walk away, don’t show up, or criticize.

Dear Children of Parents with Low Emotional Intelligence, As I write this blog, I fight back tears for every student that hoped their parent would follow through on their promise of coming on awards day but didn't. I fight back tears for everyone who looked in the audience during a speech not able to meet [...]

By |February 8th, 2018|